Thursday, February 24, 2011

Petition for Adoption



Sorry for the silence and inactivity the past 8 months or so. Have been busy being a mommy to Lucy :-) The past 8 months seem to have flown by so quickly, and yet so much has happened in those 8 months. Lucy's baptism, Lucy's 1st bday party, her 1st Xmas with our families, building our new home. There have been the challenging moments too - Lucy's first bad bout with fever when she got roseola (a kind of measles), her 1st hospital confinement when she had croup cough. Lucy has gained something like 5 lbs and grown 10 cm since we got her. Amazing! She's got 10 more teeth since 8 months ago, now walks and runs, and says 10 or so words already. All in all, it's been a wonderful ride, and we can't wait for what else parenthood has in store for us.

Last weekend, we finally got our Consent for Adoption document from DSWD. You get this after the child has been with you for at least 6 months. So now we start the legal process of making her our child and changing her name to ours. We will be filing our Petition for Adoption in court in the coming month. We hope the legal process is a smooth one so we're done sooner than later. Will keep you posted. Meantime, here's a more recent picture of Lucy I'd like to share with you.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Lucy's Here!



Sorry everyone for taking so long to post again. I have a good reason :) We've been busy with our baby!

Yes, Lucy has arrived. We are now proud parents of a bubbly, gigil, cutie pie little girl. Last June, we were advised by Norfil that our adoption application was going into a matching session that month. We were so excited and nervous at the same time! Around mid June, we were advised that a 7 month old baby girl had been matched to us. Norfil met with us to give us a background of the baby, including her health, and showed us her photos too. They asked us to think it over that night and to give them our decision the next day. Heck, what was there to think about? We said yes on the spot!

If we could have brought her home that day, we would have. We had to wait though for a week, since they had to get her ready to be transferred to our care. During that week, we frantically got ourselves baby ready. Thanks to family and friends, we hardly had to buy anything. We had 3 baby showers that week with wonderful gifts from our friends. And we got great hand me downs from our families and friends too. All we really had to invest in on our own was a car seat.

A week later, we were back at Norfil to pick up Lucy. This is what they call Gotcha Day. It's a day we'll be celebrating with Lucy every year. The first day was tough since we were still learning what her cries were about - was she hungry, sleepy, confused? By the next day though, it was like we had known each other forever! We found out what a happy baby she is. First thing she does when she wakes up is smile! Really! She even smiles sometimes while she's asleep (she must be dreaming about milk then :)

It's now been a little more than a month since we were blessed with Lucy. It feels like we've been through so much together already! I thank God for our little bundle of joy and for helping us through our journey in the making of Lucy. We're still trying to get pregnant on our own (just the natural way though, no work ups etc). If it happens, it happens. If not, we consider ourselves blessed we have Lucy. And hey, in a couple of years, who knows, we may just adopt again. This time, a little boy - Juan ;)

Monday, March 29, 2010

More Info on Adoption

It's been a few months since the last post I wrote about adoption. Since then,

- Hubby and I have attended the orientation session at NORFIL.
- We've submitted all the application reqts.
- The social worker came to visit us at home for the home visit and interview.

Next step is one more interview at NORFIL's ofc, then our application will be taken to the next matching session (they do 2 a month). So if all goes well, fingers crossed, we hope to have our child in 2-3 months.

For those who are interested to explore adoption or just want to know more about it, I've scanned the application reqts and process. Here are the scanned docs. Just click on the image to view a larger version. And if you have any questions, pls feel free to contact me too.







IVF in Taichung, Taiwan Guide

One of the hubbies in Taichung was kind enough to put together a guide for other couples to refer to if they wish to go to Taichung, Taiwan for IVF. I'm sharing a link to the document here for anyone who might be interested. Click here to view the document.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Adoption

As some of you may have already heard, our IVF at Taichung was not successful. We tested negative for pregnancy. Dr Lee said everything is fine with me and hubby, embryos just did not implant this time, probably because they were not in the right place. We just need to keep trying.


For me and hubby, we planned to try IVF just once. If it didn't work out, we would continue just trying on our own and start exploring adoption as well. We talked to a friend of ours who adopted 2 of her kids several yrs ago. She referred us to the NGO from where she did the adoption. The NGO is called NORFIL, and is one of only 2 entities that are authorized to process adoptions aside from DSWD. So if you want to avoid the bureacracy and slowness of govt agencies like DSWD, going directly to an entity like NORFIL might be a good choice. NORFIL is located at:

#16 Mother Ignacia Ave., corner Roces Avenue,
Quezon City

If you wish to call them, their Tel. Nos are: 372-3577 to 79. Look for Cessna. She's in charge of adoptions.

You can also find out more about them thru their website:

http://www.norfil.com.ph


The first step is to set an appt with them for an orientation session (ours is this Dec 4). Usually lasts about 1 and a half hours. They will give an orientation on the process, reqts etc. There will be other couples there as well.

Will let you know more after we've gone through the session.

Yahoo Group


There's a wonderful IVF Yahoo group of Pinays (most of whom went to Taichung). It's called the Babae Yahoo Group. There's a wealth of knowledge, experience, and support that you can get from that group. If you wish to be part of the group, send me your email address (you can post it in the comments section) and I'll have the administrator add you.

IVF Clinic Tips

1) Getting to the clinic

On your first day/appt, the clinic will send a car to pick you up at your hotel. You'll have to walk or take a cab home though after. On the days after, you go on your own already.

2) Clinic payments

Your total IVF cost with the clinic will be about NT120,000-150,000. You don’t need to pay the total amt right away. You pay it in installments. The schedule of payments is more or less like this:

• Your 1st appt – About NT 10,000 (for your blood tests)
• Day 2 or 3 – NT 55,000 (for your fertility meds, shots etc)
• Day 8 til egg retrieval – You’ll be going to the clinic daily to have your follicles checked via ultrasound. The doctor may decide to extend your fertility shots from day to day, so you’ll need to pay about NT 4,000 per day for each additional shot.
• Egg retrieval day – NT 20,000
• Embryo transfer day - NT 40,000

Other possible costs:
• Embryo cryo storage – If you are fortunate enough to have extra good quality embryos that you can have frozen here at the clinic, storage is free for the first year, and NT 30,000/yr thereafter.
• IVIG treatment sessions - If you end up having an immunological problem like me, be prepared to pay upto NT 50,000 per treatment (IVIG) session. In my case, I’ll need to do 4 sessions. My 1st session was on Day 8. 2nd session is after I test positive for pregnancy. Not sure yet when exactly the 3rd and 4th sessions will be, but I heard they might be on my 6th and 10th weeks of pregnancy (counting from first day of your last period). If you test negative for pregnancy, then you don’t need to do IVIG sessions anymore beyond the 1st one

3) Egg retrieval - Shave the area of your private parts the day before egg retrieval. Otherwise they'll do it for you right before the procedure, and they're not as gentle. So you're better off doing it yourself. Egg retrieval is done under general anesthesia. When you wake up, they'll wait for you to go the bathroom to urinate at least 2 times before they discharge you. In the meantime, your hubby will be waiting for you at the VIP area. When you're ready to be discharged, they'll call him to come get you.

4) Embryo transfer - You first go to a room for a detailed ultrasound. Then you go to the private room where the transfer will be done. When Dr. Lee comes to do the transfer, he'll give you a printout/report which says how many eggs were fertlizied (incl pics of the embryos). He'll tell you how many embryos he'll transfer (unless you've had a previous discussion with him and advised him of how many you want transferred), and then do the transfer. After the transfer, you'll be asked to lie down in the clinic's room for 3 hours after embryo transfer. There's a TV in the room so you won't get bored. But I mostly slept and read magazines. Your hubby can stay with you in the room. You can leave after 3 hours and go back to your hotel. Some people prefer to stay til end of the day or even overnight. But this will depend on the availability of the room.

5) Injections

You can learn to do the injections yourself (which I did), have your hubby learn, or go to the clinic each time (which can be a hassle, esp when you have 3 injections per day). Most of the injections are subcutaneous and can be done on your tummy - these I learned to do myself. But a few are intramuscular (progesterone shots) and need to be done on your butt. It's hard to do yourself, so it's better to have the clinic teach your hubby or go to the clinic to have them do it.


Some injections come in tiny bottles which you need to break. First time we did it, the glass shattered - we broke it the wrong way pala. The way to do it is as follows. Look at the neck of the bottle. You'll see a small circle on the neck - this is the weakest point on the bottle neck. Make the circle face you. Then break the bottle top away from you. It should break easily.

Useful Chinese Phrases

Hello / how are you - ni hao
Thank you - sheh sheh
How much is this? - dor sheow chen
Toilet - tsur swoh
Water - shway
Rice - fan
Fish - yu
Beef - niu ryow
Chicken - ji ryow
Pork - chu ryow
Egg - dan
Vegetables - shu sai
Menu - sai dan
Bill - my dan
Exchange money - duy hwan

Shopping, Eating, Other Stuff To Do in Taichung

Shopping

1) Food/Grocery – Jasons (in Chungyo Dept Store), Carrefour (there are several branches including one in Taichung Central Dept Store), Capitan (wonderful supermarket behind Zhong Ke Hotel), convenience stores like 7-11, OK Mart, Family Mart (they have great frozen meals that you can have microwaved, such as pasta)

2) Clothes – Dept stores like Chungyo, Mitsukoshi, Tiger City, Sogo. Find English books and mags at Eslite Bookstore in Chungyo. If you love Muji, they have a branch in Chungyo. In case you see signs like 8, 7, 6 when you shop, these mean that they're 20%, 30% or 40% off respectively. We were trying to figure this out for the longest time. A salesperson who could speak English finally explained it to us.

3) Eating Out – Yakiniku next to Zhong Ke was our fave resto (all you can eat for just Ps700), but we recently heard that they've closed down :( Also try Napoli for their chicken and pizza. It's near the IVF Clinic. You can also have your hotel call them and order for delivery. Fastfood chains like McDonalds, Burger King, KFC (try their egg tarts). There's also Chilis and Cold Stone ice cream in Tiger City. Also Fridays across Chungyo. In front of Chungyo is a market area where you can enjoy dimsum, stinky tofu, etc. Enjoy bubble tea and the many bread stores in Taichung. Did you know that this is where bubble tea was invented? On our last night in Taichung, we went to Mr. Goose. It's near Tiger City. Order the goose and stinky tofu as pulutan, and enjoy with Taiwan beer.

4) Entertainment - You can watch English movies in Tiger City or Taichung Central. If you're booked at Zhong Ke Hotel, you can ask the lobby to print out the week's movie skeds for you.

5) Sightseeing - Check out the Museum of Natural Science (don't bother to watch the movies, they're all in Chinese), Botanical Garden. If you're willing to travel farther out of central Taichung, go see Sun Moon Lake and the Dakeng Scenic Area

6) Gym - This is especially useful for the husbands. There's Peri which is a 15 min walk from Alice Hotel (going towards the direction of Chungyo). You can sign up on a monthly basis (Ps2700/month). There's also California Fitness but I heard they're more expensive and are farther away from Alice Hotel.

7) Acupuncture - When I was in Taichung, a number of the Pinoy IVF couples were going for acupuncture at a clinic near Chungyo. Heard it's very good (both for wife and hubby), and pretty cheap (about Ps500/session lang). You can ask the lobby people at Alice Hotel for details (clinic location, number etc).

8) Mass - There's a Catholic Church that says Mass in English near Taichung Central. You can take a bus from Alice Hotel. Sunday Mass is at 11am. Mass is filled with Pinoy;s who work in Taichung.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Practical Info

Some random stuff to remember which are helpful to know:

1) Changing money
You can come here with US$ and Euros (just checked yday, bank saus they change Euros) and change them at a bank next to the clinic or Alice Hotel. They only allow a max of US$500/person/day to be changed, so time your exchanges carefully (so you have the money you need to pay the clinic – more info on that later).

2) Credit cards
Credit cards are widely accepted when you shop and eat. Alice Hotel and Zhong Ke accept credit cards too. Unfortunately, Dr. Lee’s clinic doesn’t – so be prepared with your NT cash.

3) ATMs

I unexpectedly needed additional treatments when I was here, which required additional money over what I brought. I was panicking trying to figure out how to get the extra money to Taiwan, knowing the funds were sitting in my BDO account in Manila.

Then I realized I could use my BDO ATM card in the ATM machines here. Banks in Manila have ATM cards that actually work abroad (they’re affiliated with either Cirrus or Plus). So you can withdraw money from your account here (even if your acct is a peso acct). The money the ATM will dispense to you is NT dollars. There’s just a maximum amt to withdraw per day (BDO’s was NT30,000/day). And your bank will usually charge you a transaction fee (probably around Ps50/transaction, but it differs per bank).

Just look for ATMs that have a Cirrus or Plus sign on them. Most 7-11 stores have these ATMs inside. If you stay in Alice, there’s one across the street, and also one in the 7-11 next to it.

4) How much money to bring during your clinic appts
Your total IVF cost with the clinic will be about NT120,000-150,000. You don’t need to pay the total amt right away. You pay it in installments. The schedule of payments is more or less like this:

• Your 1st appt – About NT 10,000 (for your blood tests)
• Day 2 or 3 – NT 55,000 (for your fertility meds, shots etc)
• Day 8 til egg retrieval – You’ll be going to the clinic daily to have your follicles checked via ultrasound. The doctor may decide to extend your fertility shots from day to day, so you’ll need to pay about NT 4,000 per day for each additional shot.
• Egg retrieval day – NT 20,000
• Embryo transfer day - NT 40,000

Other possible costs:
• Embryo cryo storage – If you are fortunate enough to have extra good quality embryos that you can have frozen here at the clinic, storage is free for the first year, and NT 30,000/yr thereafter.
• IVIG treatment sessions - If you end up having an immunological problem like me, be prepared to pay upto NT 50,000 per treatment (IVIG) session. In my case, I’ll need to do 4 sessions. My 1st session was on Day 8. 2nd session is after I test positive for pregnancy. Not sure yet when exactly the 3rd and 4th sessions will be, but I heard they might be on my 6th and 10th weeks of pregnancy (counting from first day of your last period). If you test negative for pregnancy, then you don’t need to do IVIG sessions anymore beyond the 1st one.

5) Weather

Taiwan has 4 seasons. The closest I can compare it to in terms of weather would be HK. It’s now late Oct (autumn), temperature ranges from 19 (late at night) to 28 degrees (middle of the day). I heard winter (Jan/Feb) can get pretty cold, upto 9 degrees. So if you’re not the type who likes the cold, it’s probably best to avoid winter. Plus that’s also the time of Chinese New Year, when Dr Lee is gone for a week.

6) Safety
In terms of safety, Taiwan is pretty safe, even at night. We noticed how we hardly saw any cops around here. Yet, crime rate seems low. Our friend who lives here explained to us that that’s because there are many cameras installed in every street corner, outside bldg etc. So less need for cops. Seems to work.

That doesn’t mean you should go around leaving your bag and belongings unattended. Always still practice caution. I always think we’re pretty well trained in Manila – we don’t leave our stuff unattended, always wary of pickpockets and snatchers etc. So we’re pretty much prepared to fare well here in Taiwan.

One thing though I’d probably watch out for though in terms of safety is pedestrian safety. Most traffic lights don’t have green signal lights for turning left. Cars turn left at their own caution. So even if you’ve got a WALK signal, watch out for cars that may be turning left. My general observation here is that drivers here care even less than Philippine drivers do. In the Philippines, if they see you in the middle of the road, the driver will at least finally yield to you. Here in Taiwan, when it would happen to us, the cars didn’t even seem to slow down. We had to run off the road, otherwise the cars would have run us down.


It’s also amazing how many scooters/mopeds there are in Taiwan. They outnumber cars! They go pretty fast, a number of them don’t follow the traffic lights, and they weave in and out of roads. So watch out for these too. Although they’re smaller than cars, being run down by one can’t be that much fun either.

7) The Taiwanese people
One thing we immediately noticed here is how nice, friendly, and helpful the Taiwanese are. I have yet to see one who is unpleasant. Even the cab drivers are good natured! Amazing. You should see the staff in the clinic – the nicest people in the world you’ll ever meet. Our friends from here tell us that they are especially nice to foreigners – isn’t that great?

8) Voltage
Taiwan’s voltage is 110V (like the States). Most of the chargers for my electrical/electronic stuff are dual voltage (100-240V), so I was fine. I didn’t have to bring a transformer or anything like that. Make sure you check the stuff you bring to make sure they’re dual voltage too.

Their outlets are pretty similar to the Philippines: